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5 Secrets Women Want Men to Know on a First Date
If you’ve ever felt like figuring out what women want is a mystery, this blog post is for you. As matchmakers, we have the unique ability to see dating from both sides of the aisle; we know what your first date expectations are and we know what the woman sitting on the other side of the table is hoping to find in you. So, pay attention – we’re sharing 5 secrets women wish all men knew on a first date, and we have a feeling you won’t want to miss it.
Effort is Hot When you break it all down, there’s really only one thing women are looking for on a first date: effort. From the shoes on your feet to the way you treat the waiter, most women just want a man who is taking the process seriously and is willing to show it.
First Date Jitters are Real No matter how many dates you go on, the process will always be a little intimidating. The fear of failure, fear of being judged and fear of the unknown play in the back of everyone’s mind – no matter the gender – so take a moment to address it. After all, showing you’re vulnerable isn’t such a bad thing on a first date.
Go Above and Beyond the “Nod” Bet you never realized that there’s a right and a wrong way to listen. Nodding your head along while she talks is ok – if it’s a first step. Women don’t want to feel like they’re talking to themselves; they want you to ask questions, engage and share your own thoughts and stories. First dates should be about getting to know each other, so always try to ask for more details or respond in a way that shows you understood what she said.
False Promises are the Worst If you say you will do something, do it. If you’re not able to, let her know. When you’re beginning a relationship, a little respect goes a long way. So don’t say you will call her and then leave her hanging or say you’ll be there at 8:00pm and really get there at 8:25pm. It’s the little things that add up.
Strong Women Rule the World There are many amazing things about the woman with whom you’re about to go on a date, so make her feel like you know it. She doesn’t need you to compliment her laugh or her earrings, but that doesn’t necessarily mean she wouldn’t like it from time to time. Always build her up, while acknowledging that she’s confident all on her own.
Women are complex, not difficult. Just like you, they’re hoping that this date goes well and that they can end the day by texting their friend about the amazing night they just had. When in doubt, speak up and reconsider these five secrets before your next date.
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